Sunday, 11 February 2007

getting old

This is my first blog on this site and I want to start a discussion on the way to get old without getting sidelined and patronised. One way is to have loads of cash of course , that would help in some ways , but these are some other thoughts: it also seems a good idea to keep up with what's going on in the world even if it seems completely naff - you are not left without anything to talk about to some younger people although if you have always have wide interests you will keep up anyway. It's no good trying to seem too young or it just looks pathetic but remember you probably know more than they do about a lot of things even if you keep it to yourself most of the time ,a buttoned lip is useful.
Don't think it's too late EVER to do something new. I get so angry when people say they are too old to change, it just means they have always been boring as far as I can see.
It helps to be really interested in something and I don't mean just family,it is better for everyone if you have a life of your own that you take seriously and give priority to except in cases when the kids etc really need help. Take care of yourself physically and mentally and don't think of yourself as old --when is old now? I hit 70 last year.
Dressing is more difficult because it's a fine line between being stylish and interesting to being a bit pathetic but don't let it all go just because it is harder to stay in shape.You still are you and need not disappear into that anonomous grey haired mass.(that is how I used to think of old people.
Stay feisty and don't get too nice and amenable because you think you have no status anymore in the big wide world. I know I am lucky not to have got ill - so many friends have and it is even more vital to keep up morale when you are being treated as a geriatric/simpleminded old biddie.
Any more suggestions or should we just curl up and die to make room for others and let the kids inherit? By the way I am teaching on an art course in Bath UK in April so come and learn to paint !

9 comments:

Meloney Lemon said...

What a cool blog from , dare I say it, a silver surfer....
Age is no bar to technology - and or wisdom.

Debi said...

How wonderful to virtually meet you!

My 92 yr old dad still doesn't see himself as old. And neither he nor my mum would EVER countenance the phrase 'middle-aged' (shudder).

I look forward to meeting you here more often. And could you please tell that Meloney to get it together and do proper links in her posts so people don't have to copy and paste your URL?

Honestly, these young people ....

S. Kearney said...

Hi,
Nice to visit your blog! Thanks for your visit and comment on mine! :) I look forward to your posts.

L.M.Noonan said...

Welcome catsmother. Like the name and the blog. Love the drawings. I agree about the aging bit, especially your comments about what to wear. I've always either made my own clothes or found them in 'op' shops--ah the artist's life, and now I'm fretting about whether it's undignified to still be wearing the style that I've always thought of as me?
Undignified smignified...I'll keep wearing what I like because like every other lady over a certain age I've become invisible.

Debi said...

Check out the link on my blog to Life of Riley - she's 107 and has just started blogging!

Unknown said...

Go way, Debi - 107???

Look all this business about getting old and older, I mean, I'm going to be forty soon but I don't feel like it. I feel like I'm still in me twenties and haven't a clue at times! That's probably down to having lost loads of brain cells when I had kids - the more kids you have the more cells you lose... only kidding!

I love the tone you set in this post - very feisty :)

Best of luck with the art classes in Bath. I'd love to go but there's the small matter of the wee stream between us....

rosemary catling said...

Thanks for kind comments.i.m.noonam - I should wear what you feel like unless it makes you look weird.Don't take the opinion of any young people you may know seriously about this but entertain the possibility that they might be right!.My daughter who is not unlike meloneylemon - see link -said I should be wearing 'good tweeds' when I was about 45.I shall watch her wardrobe with interest for anything tweedy.no signs so far.nice to meet you

Lee said...

A great big welcome to the blogging world. I like what you say about boring. And don't forget that Philip Roth just won his 3rd PEN/Faulkner prize at 73. No geriatric simplemindedness there!

Meloney Lemon said...

....and now that you are 72 - how about another post?????